Dad couldn’t be prouder of his two children and their mother. But after sharing an image of mom napping with the two children in her bed, the internet through a fit because of mom’s habit with “co-sleeping” with the younger ones. And now the post has instigated a debate about whether it is right or wrong, good or bad, to co-sleep with babies.
The image that started it all was posted to the famous Facebook page, Love What Matters, back on April 2. To this day, it is still causing waves.
David Brinkley had simply snapped a picture of mom sleeping with the two children, one of whom is a baby.
“Recently (my wife) was talking to a friend and they were talking about this thing called ‘co-sleeping,’ and I heard the other person ask, ‘Doesn’t your husband hate that? My husband would never let me do that.’”
Brinkley was surprised that this woman’s husband was against co-sleeping, so he continued by writing:
“So I just decided to come out as a man and set a few things straight. I do NOT hate any part of what makes my wife the mother that she is. I would NEVER degrade or disregard anything that she feels like doing for my children. Do I have to squeeze into a small corner of the bed sometimes? Yeah? But my God how beautiful does she look holding my children.”
Little did Brinkley know but he was about to unleash a tirade from all the “amazing” parents out there. They were quick to point out that co-sleeping is dangerous and that his wife is doing something terrible for the kids. Fortunately, a lot of reasonable people also stepped in and defended Brinkley’s wife for co-sleeping with the baby.
More than 130,000 people have liked the post, and about 30,000 have shared it. But the discussion in the comments has gotten out of control. More than 5,000 people have posted their opinion on co-sleeping.
“This is dangerous for the baby,” one user complained. “Babies should sleep alone, on their back, in a crib. Remember the A<B<Cs of safe sleep.”
Another person shared the “terrors” of co-sleeping.
“Co-sleeping is not safe. Children get rolled on all of the time, and this type of behavior creates children who can’t sleep on their own without touch!”
Some people pushed back and supported Brinkley’s wife’s sleeping habit.
“Co-sleeping happened for thousands of years until we became a ‘civilized’ society and put the kids at the other end of the house!”
The American Academy of Pediatrics estimates that about 3,500 babies die each year because of co-sleeping and other sleep accidents. The AAP recommends that babies sleep alone in their cribs or bassinets. They should have a firm mattress without blankets or pillows. These increase the risk that babies die from suffocation.
Although no one should argue with Brinkley’s sentiment that he loves his wife and her ability as a mother, doctors do not recommend co-sleeping.
What do you think about co-sleeping? Did you or do you do it?